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How To Ask Someone To Mentor You?


If you are here, that means you already understand how important it is to have a mentor in your life.

Just that, you feel a little shy or not so confident in asking someone to mentor you.

What if they say no? What if they didn’t help me the way I want? What if they didn’t like the way I approached? All these questions might be revolving in your head right now.

Let’s clear them up in this blog post and help you get a simple and highly effective strategy on how to ask people to mentor you.

Your first step to asking someone to mentor you is to find someone who has the capabilities you are looking for.

The last thing you would want is to get someone to mentor you but their advice is having a negative effect on your career.

Ask yourselves, what is that you need help with right now in your career, and how a mentor can help you get your desired results.

Your answer to the above question will define which type of mentor will suit you the best.

Once you know what you want out of the mentorship, then go ahead and see who has those capabilities to advice you.

Ideally, a mentor should be someone 2 or 3 steps ahead of you and should be on a similar journey as you are in.

Because people who are too ahead of you might have lost the memory of the exact problems they faced while they were at your level, and how they solved them.

Also, they might not be having so much time to mentor you.

So, choose your mentor wisely.

Go on Linkedin, Twitter, be it any social media… You can even approach people through cold emails.

Keep following up with them till they reply.

Remember, you don’t have to spam, but genuinely ask them for their help.

Now, don’t ask “Can you mentor me?” right away.

It could be a very sudden and heavy question for people to answer immediately, especially when they don’t know you.

So take it slow.

Tell them how much you admire their work and if it is possible for them, can they advice you a bit on {whatever you want the advice on}.

If they say yes, then go ahead and ask your 1 or 2 questions.

See if their advice is of some help to you.

Then ask them if you can come back to them after a week or a month to get their feedback on your work.

See how they respond to it.

If they agreed then fine, if not, then take their advice on who would be the best person who can mentor you.

So even if they denied, you will get a referral from them, which is definitely going to help.

If they say they don’t advice people for free, there’s no harm in paying until you are getting the results from their guidance.

Once you got the mentor, make sure you make it very clear what exactly are you looking from this mentor-mentee relationship.

Most of the time, mentors don’t know what mentees want from them.

Many times mentees just go ahead and ask some random questions from the top of their head, and don’t tell what is the objective behind asking those questions and how the answer will help them get the clarity.

You need to tell them how your current situation looks like, and how your desired situation would look like, and what exact problems are you facing and where you need their help.

Give them the context, and then ask your questions.

This is the only way to get the maximum of your mentor’s experience to achieve your desired goal!

That’s it.

I hope this short blog post was helpful to you in some ways. Got any thoughts or questions rolling in your head? Capture them fast on the comment section below before you forget them.

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